Choosing your party, possibly one of the most important decisions a bride can make on her big day. Why you ask? Well, your bridal party will be spending much of the wedding with you, helping to plan and run pretty much every inch of your day, before, during and after the event! It’s glaringly obvious that your bridal party help in so many more ways than just wearing a pretty dress down the aisle. Therefore, it is so important that you choose the right people to be part of your fun wedding day team!
I would say the first big job is to decide whether or not to have a maid/matron of honour. For me this was a no brainer, I knew I was going to ask my best friend of nearly 20 years. I couldn’t have imagined asking anyone else and literally couldn’t wait to see if she would say yes… of course she did!
My top tips for choosing your maid/matron of honour would be choose someone you are super close too, can trust and someone who you know will organise an amazing hen do! I mean, who doesn’t want an amazing hen to celebrate the end of single life and the start of marriage!
The second job then is to choose the rest of your bridal party. This can be a hard one if you have a large group of friends. I mean you might want quite a big bridal party but I took the approach that less is more, which is sort of a motto I have with friends anyway (it’s quality not quantity!). I decided to choose two of my closest friends and my fiancé’s sister, all of which I love and can’t wait to have by my side on the big day!
I am pleased I’ve kept my bridal party quite small with four of my nearest and dearest as I think it will be a really lovely atmosphere the night before and the morning of the wedding. Don’t get my wrong, I also think having a big bridal party can be fun if you’ve got a large close knit group of friends! Whatever the size, I personally can’t wait to spend time with my best friends having fun and spending time pampering ourselves before the big day!
The next job I had to think about is how to ask my nearest and dearest to become part of my bridal party. We are past the era of just asking the question. Today, asking your bridal party can come with lots of flamboyance and that is something I totally got on board with.
I knew as soon as I got engaged that I wanted to ask my bridesmaids to become part of my bridal party in a special way. I’d seen on Instagram other people asking their bridal party with special boxes full of lovely things and so that is what I decided to do!
I wanted the boxes to be super personal so I ordered boxes with their names foiled onto the front (which got lost in the post and I had to get posted out to me again!), with the question on the inside of the box lid. To go with this I also ordered personalised cards again with their name foiled on the front and the question. I love the personal touch and thought this was such a special way to ask. I also made sure the box and cards matched my wedding colour scheme so there was a theme throughout.
Once I had the boxes, it was time to decide what I was going to put in them. I didn’t want to put tack in the boxes but things that were personal as well as being a bit fun. Firstly I decided to put some alcohol in, I mean prosecco is all about celebrating and thats what we are doing! To go with the prosecco I found this amazing shimmery gin liqueur for that added special touch and since I love anything glittery it was a no brainer!
So I had the fun part covered but I also wanted to get a couple of bits that were a more sentimental. I found some products by a brand called Katie Loxton that I hadn’t seen before when I was browsing for a wedding planner John Lewis. They had some really lovely wedding products. When searching I actually found a Katie Loxton shop so I headed over a couple of days later to have a look.
Katie Loxton had some really beautiful pale pink clutch bags that were adorned with gold ‘maid of honour’ and ‘bridesmaid’ on the front. I instantly fell in love with them, I loved them even more when I realised there was a bride one to match! These bags are such lovely quality and will make the perfect bag for all the little bits your bridal party might need on the day of the wedding.
To go with the clutch bags, my fiancé and I came across these really delicate bracelets specifically designed for asking your bridal party. They were so beautiful and delicate and made the perfect little gift that can be worn on the wedding day. These bracelets were again from Katie Loxton, however were made by a brand called Joma Jewellery which was a bonus because it looked like we had personalised the bracelets with our initials J&J!
I really thought the gifts I chose for the box were the perfect mix of personal and fun and would really mean something to my bridal party! Also, as well as my bridal party I also bought my future mother in law a clutch bag, as I thought it would be a sweet gesture, especially as I was asking her daughter to be my bridesmaid. It also nearly perfectly matched our colour scheme so it was meant to be!
I really enjoyed writing this blog post, as it’s filled me with lovely memories and will give me the chance to relive this moment over and over again. I really found asking my friends to become my bridesmaids a super fun and happy experience and I would encourage anyone to ask their bridal party in a unique and special way. You’ll get a super reaction if you do!
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Thank you for reading, I hope you enjoyed it!
Jordyn Amber x
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